A mother who found her child’s grave robbed of its ornaments in Barnsley Cemetery urged changes to security after the “soul-destroying” discovery.
The grave of Stacey Louise Ogley who died in 1993 was ransacked including a Cinderella Carriage which was a family Christmas present from her brother Stephen Ogley as well as a bench dedicated to Stacey which was smashed.
The ornaments were last seen by Stacey’s mother Wendy Ogley the day before on 12 April while mowing the cemetery lawn.
Wendy Ogley, who is a carer for the elderly, said: “There’s nothing else to say other than it’s completely soul destroying.
“No parent should ever have to lose a child but these things happen. But to steal from a child’s grave it’s heart breaking- I don’t understand what goes through people’s minds, they must have no conscience.”
The £100 stone Cinderella Carriage was specially made by a man in Chesterfield but Mrs Ogley explained that it is not the money, it’s the principle.
She said: “It’s a family grave, me and her dad will be going in there eventually. All I ask is for people to leave the stuff alone.
“My daughter was eight years old when she passed, and going to her grave is the only place of comfort I get.”
Mrs Ogley has tended the grave in Carlton Cemetery for over thirty years to feel close to her daughter and explained that it is not the first time possessions had been vandalised.
Two years ago, several photos of her daughter were smashed costing over £250 to replace.
The mother who lives in Barnsley explained that the theft could only have been achieved with a vehicle as the ornaments were too heavy to lift.
Mrs Ogley added that attempts were made to prevent robberies at the cemetery including locking the gate for vehicles past 10pm which was revoked after people wanting to visit their loved ones after dark complained.
She said: “The council put up a sign that says no cars in the cemetery but no-one adheres to it.
“People can’t always keep blaming the kids. It’s not the kids, it’s people who have had a browse of the cemetery and thought I’ll have that.”
Mrs Ogley explained that although it is a pity that CCTV is required, having some surveillance would put people’s minds at rest.
She said: “Something needs to change because I can’t take it anymore.
“It’s heart-breaking, it shouldn’t happen to anyone’s grave, never mind a child’s.”
Paul Castle, Service Director, Environment and Transport, said: “Unfortunately, there is a very small number of people that show little respect to our borough’s cemeteries. It is sad and quite unfortunate that anyone has to deal with theft from a grave.
“We are aware of parking issues and there are several signs advising on this. Parents have been asked not to use the cemetery as a school pick-up and drop-off point, and we’d like to remind them to respect this request. We will ask our enforcement team to carry out patrols.”
To report any further incidents call the Bereavement Services Team on (01226) 206053.
